Pick Up Artist Tips: How to Approach Women
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So having developed and practiced a bit of material at home, how can you take this into the field? The first step any wannabe pick up artist should take is to build confidence and overcome approach anxiety. The good news is there are some very easy ways to destroy approach anxiety and the easiest is to rule out any delays BEFORE YOU START.
So what do I mean by this. Well, genuine players should always observe the 3 second rule. That is to say they should act virtually immediately once they see a woman they would like to try and pick up. By doing this, you act before your mind can come up with a load of negative points and fears about approaching a woman or more importantly, what will come of it.
This means that you go into your ‘first contact’ without any mental baggage cluttering your game. This approach to approaching is often referred to as Kamikaze, but either way, with a good stack of pre-practiced material, you should be able to start stringing together a good conversation that you can lead.
Another key component of improving your game is to make sure you are not putting the cart before the horse. The way you are going to become an effective pick up artist is by realising that your objective is to get the woman attracted to you. You are already attracted to her so the last thing you need to worry about is letting her know that! You need to get the outcome of the interaction out of your head.
If you enter into a pick up routine and underlying all your conversation is an obsession with how things will work out, it will outshine your performance and ruin your otherwise slick ‘presentation’. It takes time and practice but it is the only way you will have enduring success. This is why you’ve gotta get out there and approach lots and lots of women – WITHOUT worrying yourself about whether you are going to get laid!
To draw an analogy, it is a bit like playing a platform computer game where you get past level one, then get stuck on level two until you figure out how to get past that, then you get stuck on level three and so on. Approaching a woman is the level one of our game and you need not concern yourself with how you will get past level 15 yet (ha ha)!
So, in order to increase your chances of getting past level one, you need to come across convincingly and authoritatively. You need to be an alpha male! What is it that makes a male ‘alpha’.
The alpha male is a persona that women fall for. He is funny, carefree, confident, cocky, challenging and above all, a leader. These characteristics are the ones that will make any woman want to be around you. These characteristics take you from being any guy to being a man that a woman might aspire to be with and this is incredibly important when you want to meet the hottest women.
The thing with hot women is they get approached all the time. As a thing of beauty, a women will have learned from an early stage that most men will do whatever she wants. This makes ‘most men’, boring and unattractive. What she finds attractive is a man who challenges her and will not roll over just because of her beauty.
Alpha males do not roll over.
There are so many things that you can learn about how to portray an alpha male and improve your chances with women that I cannot possibly fit them into this article. If you want to know more about improving your approach skills I heartily recommend The Art of Approaching as a great place to start. For improving your status with women, I absolutely recommend John Alexander’s Become and Alpha Male
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