Pick Up Artist Tips: Practical Measures for Annihilating Approach Anxiety
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Along with the mental measures you need to take, you also need practical measures to annihilate your approach anxiety.
Being able to walk up to, open and talk comfortably with women you haven’t met requires confidence and comfort on your part. In order to build your confidence, there is a very simple trick you can use; compliment people. Genuinely – not in a contrived or difficult way though! Genuinely compliment people (of all ages and sexes (although concentrate on women)). Practice compliments in the mirror and get them to sound natural so they can roll off your tongue. Once you’ve nailed it, get out there and deliver some compliments!
You will be amazed that complimenting people can make you feel better. The thing is, it is rewarding to cheer other people up. Most of the time we don’t give it a thought. Unfortunately, we don’t even compliment the people we love so starting it on strangers may be a bit more difficult. But it needn’t be – they don’t know you so who cares what they think of you walking up to them and giving them a compliment. (Did you see how I reminded you about that – you don’t need to worry about what other people think!)
You see, the thing about being a better man with women is that you must be relaxed around them. It tells them that you are a “high value” man. It tells them that you are an alpha male and alpha males are successful not only in life but especially with women. John Alexander’s book, Becoming an Alpha Male is an excellent place to learn these traits that will build towards your success. I strongly recommend you read this book.
On top of making an issue of complimenting people, make sure you’re not being a shut in. Get yourself out there every day to make it possible to meet the public. If you live in a city this is simple, but if not, you must make an effort to get to a place where you can approach people on a DAILY basis. The purpose of this is simply to approach people – especially women.
You must commit to doing this every day. You cannot scrimp or avoid this. Make a commitment to yourself to go out and approach at least one woman every day with a view to starting a conversation. Don’t make any excuses like ‘I don’t feel sociable today’ or ‘I don’t feel confident today’ or ‘I’ll do two approaches tomorrow’ You must commit to go out of your way and make at least one approach per day.
To make it easier on yourself, try building the physical routine you will use so you end up in the same places every day or walking the same circuit everyday. This will make you more comfortable as you will be familiar with your surroundings. The more familiar you are the more comfortable you will feel. The more comfortable you feel, the more confident you will become which are qualities of alpha males!
What do you open with? Good question. I said in the first part of this article on ezinearticles that you should avoid trying to be witty or using some corny chat up line. I explained that this just lumbers more mental pressure on you because you have to deliver a great line when you are already nervous.
You need to be plain and friendly. I already mentioned compliments and I stand by it. You can start with a compliment and then move on to a canned routine. If you want to know about canned routines, I strongly recommend Magic Bullets as a great place to start. You could easily move on to explain why you give people compliments (because it gives you a ‘high’ or ego boost) and then take it from there. The point is, be plain and simple. If you start out with something funny it also makes you seem a bit desperate to impress which lowers you value in her eyes.
Once you start approaching women and having little conversations with them, you should draw on the experience and use it to build you confidence. You did it yesterday, you can do it today. It become routine and normal and that only adds to your levels of comfort. Once you have built your confidence and comfort, you will find women notice it about you and you can move onto finding out more about becoming a better pick up artist.
Recommended Reading:
The Art of Approaching
Becoming an Alpha Male
Magic Bullets