Pick Up Artist Tips: Casual Erotic Contact to Get Things Moving!
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Women love excitement. they love to ride their emotions. They are after all, emotional animals, hence the saying, men are from Mars, women are from Venus. So here are a few tips to capitalize on a womans love of emotional stimulation to get things going for you in an intimate way.
This is slightly advanced stuff so I am assuming you have managed to overcome your approach anxiety and are getting pretty darn good at expressing your alpha male qualities. If you haven’t, you could do far worse than getting a hold of a copy of John Alexander’s Becoming an Alpha Male or reviewing Joseph Mathews’ excellent Art of Approaching course.
So here’s how you get a nice little boob rub in. It is simple and easy if you are having a good time and taking advantage of the emotional peaks in your conversation. Having fun is key to getting acceptance with this approach.
Let’s say you are in a club and you want to move your prospect to another area. You go to grab her hand and pull her in close to you, demonstrating your strong alpha male characteristics. She loves this kind of behavior and providing you are playing the game correctly, you will gain full acceptance from her. As you lead her, you can use the back of your arm to gently rub across the front of her breast.
It goes without saying that if she is attracted to you and you are not clumsey and blatant with this, she will let you do it.
Her breast are erogenous and she will be excited that she is being aroused in public. This will only raise her emotional state.
If you want to really up the ante you can with your next move.
The next time you are moving from one location in the club to another or from one venue to another, you can repeat the process but this time, if her hand is by her hip you can ‘accidentally miss’ the hand and make contact in a more intimate manner. But pull away immediately!
This must be done in a casual way and accidentally without you making anything of it. If she wants to pull you up on it then either you have been a little clumsy in your execution or you have misjudged the mood or she will make light of it in which case, geronimo! Good luck out there!
Recommended Reading:
The Art of Approaching
Becoming an Alpha Male
Magic Bullets
Pick Up Artist Tips: Practical Measures for Annihilating Approach Anxiety
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Along with the mental measures you need to take, you also need practical measures to annihilate your approach anxiety.
Being able to walk up to, open and talk comfortably with women you haven’t met requires confidence and comfort on your part. In order to build your confidence, there is a very simple trick you can use; compliment people. Genuinely – not in a contrived or difficult way though! Genuinely compliment people (of all ages and sexes (although concentrate on women)). Practice compliments in the mirror and get them to sound natural so they can roll off your tongue. Once you’ve nailed it, get out there and deliver some compliments!
You will be amazed that complimenting people can make you feel better. The thing is, it is rewarding to cheer other people up. Most of the time we don’t give it a thought. Unfortunately, we don’t even compliment the people we love so starting it on strangers may be a bit more difficult. But it needn’t be – they don’t know you so who cares what they think of you walking up to them and giving them a compliment. (Did you see how I reminded you about that – you don’t need to worry about what other people think!)
You see, the thing about being a better man with women is that you must be relaxed around them. It tells them that you are a “high value” man. It tells them that you are an alpha male and alpha males are successful not only in life but especially with women. John Alexander’s book, Becoming an Alpha Male is an excellent place to learn these traits that will build towards your success. I strongly recommend you read this book.
On top of making an issue of complimenting people, make sure you’re not being a shut in. Get yourself out there every day to make it possible to meet the public. If you live in a city this is simple, but if not, you must make an effort to get to a place where you can approach people on a DAILY basis. The purpose of this is simply to approach people – especially women.
You must commit to doing this every day. You cannot scrimp or avoid this. Make a commitment to yourself to go out and approach at least one woman every day with a view to starting a conversation. Don’t make any excuses like ‘I don’t feel sociable today’ or ‘I don’t feel confident today’ or ‘I’ll do two approaches tomorrow’ You must commit to go out of your way and make at least one approach per day.
To make it easier on yourself, try building the physical routine you will use so you end up in the same places every day or walking the same circuit everyday. This will make you more comfortable as you will be familiar with your surroundings. The more familiar you are the more comfortable you will feel. The more comfortable you feel, the more confident you will become which are qualities of alpha males!
What do you open with? Good question. I said in the first part of this article on ezinearticles that you should avoid trying to be witty or using some corny chat up line. I explained that this just lumbers more mental pressure on you because you have to deliver a great line when you are already nervous.
You need to be plain and friendly. I already mentioned compliments and I stand by it. You can start with a compliment and then move on to a canned routine. If you want to know about canned routines, I strongly recommend Magic Bullets as a great place to start. You could easily move on to explain why you give people compliments (because it gives you a ‘high’ or ego boost) and then take it from there. The point is, be plain and simple. If you start out with something funny it also makes you seem a bit desperate to impress which lowers you value in her eyes.
Once you start approaching women and having little conversations with them, you should draw on the experience and use it to build you confidence. You did it yesterday, you can do it today. It become routine and normal and that only adds to your levels of comfort. Once you have built your confidence and comfort, you will find women notice it about you and you can move onto finding out more about becoming a better pick up artist.
Recommended Reading:
The Art of Approaching
Becoming an Alpha Male
Magic Bullets
Pick Up Artist Tips: Applying Cat Theory
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Using the concept of cat theory to raise your game will bring astonishing results. So in this part of the article, I will answer the questions of how to become an attraction to the women and secondly, how to keep yourself aloof enough to maintain interest.
The first part of being attractive (wriggling the feather) is to be an alpha male. What do I mean by this? Well, women are surrounded by jerks and beta males all the time. Jerks get lucky because they are exciting to be around for women, beta males get the scraps off the table when it comes to the ladies. Being alpha is the key to holding the gaze and interest of beautiful women.
So what qualities mark out alpha males? There are many and they are too numerous for exhaustive explanation here but let me give you some examples of what marks out alpha males from the rest. They are fun and fun loving. They are great to be around because they bring an aura ofhappiness and positivity with them. They are confident and determined – they do not doubt themselves. They are well turned out and demonstrate wealth andintelligence . They are fair and humble and do not brag about their status – they don’t need to. They display strong alpha male body language, taking up space and ensuring you know they are there. If you want to know more about being an alpha male, just read John Alexander’s excellent book, Become an Alpha Male, you can read my review by clicking here.
So if you can be the alpha male, you will immediately make yourself an attraction – you will become the feather. Now to being aloof but enticing.
Once you have found your mark, and made your approach you need to get her clawing for you. If you have problems with approaching, I strongly recommend the Art of Approaching as a great place to start developing your skills.
A fatal flaw most would be pick up artists make is to start doling out compliments. WRONG! You will destroy her interest in you because you have effectively given yourself up to her by declaring your thoughts. Keep any compliments till after you have taken her home for the night 
Beautiful women have beta males laying themselves down at her feet like doormats all day long. If you are alpha, you do not do that, you stand your ground and make her prove herself to you. Sure she might be beautiful but you need her to be more than that. (Beauty works for beta males because they don’t value themselves and are prepared to do anything for a shag with a half good looking girl – alpha males require more than good looks.)
Make sure you use your body language to feign disinterest. Make sure you constantly remind her that you are about to leave and that your time is precious. Be prepared to give her gentle ‘negs’; telling her a negative ‘tongue-in-cheek’ compliment such as “I met a girl in the coffee shop with that skirt on, it is very nice – seems you have good taste too” for example.
That serves as a ‘neg’ and as a ‘pre-selected qualifyer‘ – you have told her that you met a girl in the coffee shop which implies other women like to be with you so you have been ‘pre-selected’ and this qualifies you as suitable alpha male material for her. If you want to know more about pre-selection and qualifiers, I cannot recommend Magic Bullets highly enough – it explains in great detail how you can re-invent yourself as a supreme pick up artist. (Read my short review by clicking here.)
If you are making her laugh and displaying strong alpha male qualities she will literally start grabbing you to get you to stay if you threaten to leave. Instead of you trying to attract her, she will be trying to attract you and that is the perfect situation to be in if you want to pick up women on a regular basis.
Now if I may be so cheeky; Be the feather on the string and a little pussy will surely be coming your way.
Recommended Reading:
Become an Alpha Male
The Art of Approaching
Magic Bullets
Pick Up Artist Tips: How To Impress Women
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Okay, so the number one thing a pick up artist needs to know about impressing a woman is that it all about confidence. Regardless of how good looking you are or how wealthy you are. Women love confident men. Women are not attracted to or impressed by needy men.
So, if you are not the most confident guy in the world you need to be smart and use a little bit of game. You need to make the woman think that you are used to being around attractive women and are completely nonplussed about her beauty. Even if you are attracted to her and would like nothing more than to get her in bed you do not want her to know that. As a pick up artist that is the last thing you want her to know. If she knows that immediately then not only is her encounter with you much less interesting for her but she will see herself as having higher value than you.
This is why it is such a mistake for guys to go up to women and give them cheesy pick up lines or pay them compliments about their beauty straight away. By doing that they are basically saying that they see themselves as less worthy. This is bad news for a pick up artist.
You want the woman to think that you are the prize. You want her to think that she is the lucky one to be talking to you and not the other way around. So, without being rude or insulting, it’s not a bad idea to tease a little. To show her you do not care if she likes you or not. This is where the real game of a pick up artist comes in. Of course you care. That is why you are there, but you have to act like you are there to have fun regardless of whether you pick up the woman or not.
And do you know the best way to do that? Go out and have fun and talk to attractive women regardless of whether you pick them up or not. In other words- practice, practice, practice- then, when the time comes and there is an attractive woman who you really wan to pick up it will not be such a big deal.
Another way to look at this is to think about sport. You know from experience and watching good sportsmen and women that you almost always perform better when you are confident and relaxed and when you play almost as if you did not care if you won or not. This means you can take risks and try things that you might not otherwise try if you are tense about doing exactly the right thing all the time.
This is psychology and why there are such things as sports psychologists. You have to play as if you do not care if you win or lose even when winning is the most important thing in the world to you. It’s the same for a good pick up artist. If you can chat with a beautiful woman as if you do not care in the slightest whether she likes you or not and even tease her to the extent that you risk her not liking you then you are so much more likely to come out on top.
Confidence is a powerful thing. So, you need to do everything you can to be more confident. Now, there are many of ways to do this but one way you can do it right now is to take care of your appearance and make sure that you always look your best.
You do not know when you are going to come across that beautiful woman and need to turn on all your pick up artist charms so it makes sense to always wear clean clothes that are in good condition and make you look as attractive as possible. Women care about whether you care about your presentation.
Looking good and wearing clothes you feel good in is going to make you feel better about yourself and help project the image that you want to project to a woman. So take some time to think about how to put together an outfit. Again, women notice these things. The bottom line is taking pride in how you look because it will make a massive difference in how successful you are as a pick up artist.
There are so many things that can help you to be successful with women but working on your confidence and taking pride in your appearance is a great place to start. Yes, women do love the Alpha Male. That is a fact. And if you want to move beyond the basics and get into the real nitty-gritty of impressing women and learn some advanced lessons about becoming more attractive to attractive women then you should read John Alexander’s Become an Alpha Male (Click on this link to check it out)
Pick Up Artist Tips: How to Be Attractive To Women
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Okay, so you’ve made her feel that you are confident and not needy in any way. What are the other characteristics that are going to make you a great pick artist, send her over the edge and mark you out from all the other guys that have been hitting on her?
The most important characteristic of all is to be positive. Always be positive. Negative energy is such an unattractive trait and women will not want anything to do with you if you display it when they are meeting you for the first time. They will run a mile to get away from you. If, however, they feel that you always have a positive attitude that is hugely attractive and something they are going to want to be around a lot.
Also, remember that being positive is not about being overly enthusiastic about everything and walking around like a smiling buffoon. It is about attitude. It takes strength of character to have a positive attitude towards life because we all at different times in our lives have to face difficult and challenging times. Being positive about things means you are not letting things get you down. It means you have the strength to deal with anything and still have fun and be a go getter.
Also, if someone has a positive attitude and is comfortable with themselves then they are comfortable to be around. The more comfortable a woman is around you then the more she can be attracted to you. So, be positive and make be someone who goes out of their way to make other people feel comfortable.
Another quality that is extremely attractive to women is being social. Think about what being social means for a minute. It means you are a people person, which means you are interested in other people. You are not in your own head all the time. Or your own room. It means you like to get out there and meet new people and find out what they are about. This is a quality that all good leaders possess. They know how to work the room and make every person they speak to feel special.
Now, here’s the real crux of the deal. You need to develop all of these qualities so that a woman can intuitively pick up on them and be attracted to you but you also must be or at least appear to be humble and not vain. In other words, women are most attracted to guys who are are extremely attractive but do not realize how attractive they are. Women absolutely love that.
This is just the start of what you can learn about being attractive to women and everything you learn is going to get you one step closer to being the kind of pick up artist you want to be. For more extremely useful information I recommend The Art of Approaching and John Alexander’s Become an Alpha Male
Pick Up Artist Tips: 7 Ways To Be a Better You
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Continuing on from the first part of this article found on ezinearticles.com, here are some more important characteristics you should develop in order to enhance your viability and prestige with women.
Be Pre-selected: Magic Bullets places a great deal of importance on ensuring women see you in a ‘pre-selected’ state. What matters here is that women are a little sheep-like. If you can demonstrate (or imply) that you have been with hot girls before, this will convey pre-selection. I.e. Other hot women have found you to be of high enough value, therefore you are a valid object of affection. It is an emotional impression and it need not be the truth but by conveying that you HAVE been pre-selected, you close a door of rejection. Life is about impressions: come across as hot property and you are hot property (even if you aren’t!).
Be an Alpha Male: Being an alpha male is a term used to identify the characteristics of incredibly attractive men. Alphas are in charge without being aggressive. They are respected without threatening force. They are admired for who that are. The alpha male has confidence, charisma, power, influence and is a leader. He is also commonly found surrounded by women. John Alexander’s book, Become an Alpha Male is a great example of how any “Average Joe” can go from zero to hero with the ladies and one that I heartily recommend.
Be Socially-Aware: Women meet and get hit on by social dwarfs all day long. C’mon dude, let’s face it most guys are complete dorks when is comes to social skills. By taking an interest in becoming a pick up artist, you are at least demonstrating that you are willing to improve your social skills. Well done you! 3 points!
Women NOTICE men who are socially aware and cannot help themselves becoming attracted to them and gravitating towards them. Learn to be better at reading social situations and you will find women surrounding you all the time too. (Just remember to be fun though!)
Be Fair, Be Humble: As part of being an alpha male, you must demonstrate fairness in you judgements. Alpha males are not cruel, they are “alpha”. If you develop your character in the ways outline, you will find more and more women in your life anyway, but they will go if you turn out to be an egotistical sociopath with a taste for cruelty. Be humble with your status – understated if you will. Women will find you overwhelmingly attractive if you can convey these characteristics.
Understand Women: You must realise that women are emotional creatures. The whole game of being a pick up artist relies on you getting this point. Women rationalise their decisions AFTER they have made them. They make their decisions based on their emotional state at the time the decision was made. If you watch girls having fun together you will see how childish they are, riding their emotions. Once you get this and she knows you get it (without being manipulative!), she will find you irresistible. Remember, 95% of guys just do not grasp the idea that women are emotional creatures, so get this bit right and you have a head start to die for!
Have Standards: A women will find you attractive if you are a challenge. Most guys will roll over like a puppy and do anything for a hot girl. Well, you can forget that kind of behaviour right from the get-go. Roll over and you are a floor mat in her eyes. You must not take any crap from her and you must let her know it. By doing this you raise your value compared to virtually all the guys she meets.
She will test you to see what you will do for her. Make sure you challenge her and don’t agree with everything she says (unless you can do it emotionally and get her going). Once a woman knows you have standards that exceed her looks, she will start to work for you and there is, my friend, no better feeling than having a girl work her tail off to impress you!
Finally, here is the one thing you must never do with a women. Do this and you are going home alone my friend:
Don’t be Needy: Women can be turned on with the careful use of many of the characteristics I have outlined here. Be needy and you may as well forget about all of it. Women find neediness about as attractive as venereal disease. So unless you want to come across as a dose of the clap, never come across as needy. If you do, your value will drop like Wall Street in a credit crunch – unlike her panties!
Work on your character and use these anchors as references and before you know it, women you meet will want to stay around you. And you know where that will end. : )
Recommended Reading:
Magic Bullets
Become an Alpha Male
Make Women Laugh
Pick Up Artist Tips: How to Approach Women
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So having developed and practiced a bit of material at home, how can you take this into the field? The first step any wannabe pick up artist should take is to build confidence and overcome approach anxiety. The good news is there are some very easy ways to destroy approach anxiety and the easiest is to rule out any delays BEFORE YOU START.
So what do I mean by this. Well, genuine players should always observe the 3 second rule. That is to say they should act virtually immediately once they see a woman they would like to try and pick up. By doing this, you act before your mind can come up with a load of negative points and fears about approaching a woman or more importantly, what will come of it.
This means that you go into your ‘first contact’ without any mental baggage cluttering your game. This approach to approaching is often referred to as Kamikaze, but either way, with a good stack of pre-practiced material, you should be able to start stringing together a good conversation that you can lead.
Another key component of improving your game is to make sure you are not putting the cart before the horse. The way you are going to become an effective pick up artist is by realising that your objective is to get the woman attracted to you. You are already attracted to her so the last thing you need to worry about is letting her know that! You need to get the outcome of the interaction out of your head.
If you enter into a pick up routine and underlying all your conversation is an obsession with how things will work out, it will outshine your performance and ruin your otherwise slick ‘presentation’. It takes time and practice but it is the only way you will have enduring success. This is why you’ve gotta get out there and approach lots and lots of women – WITHOUT worrying yourself about whether you are going to get laid!
To draw an analogy, it is a bit like playing a platform computer game where you get past level one, then get stuck on level two until you figure out how to get past that, then you get stuck on level three and so on. Approaching a woman is the level one of our game and you need not concern yourself with how you will get past level 15 yet (ha ha)!
So, in order to increase your chances of getting past level one, you need to come across convincingly and authoritatively. You need to be an alpha male! What is it that makes a male ‘alpha’.
The alpha male is a persona that women fall for. He is funny, carefree, confident, cocky, challenging and above all, a leader. These characteristics are the ones that will make any woman want to be around you. These characteristics take you from being any guy to being a man that a woman might aspire to be with and this is incredibly important when you want to meet the hottest women.
The thing with hot women is they get approached all the time. As a thing of beauty, a women will have learned from an early stage that most men will do whatever she wants. This makes ‘most men’, boring and unattractive. What she finds attractive is a man who challenges her and will not roll over just because of her beauty.
Alpha males do not roll over.
There are so many things that you can learn about how to portray an alpha male and improve your chances with women that I cannot possibly fit them into this article. If you want to know more about improving your approach skills I heartily recommend The Art of Approaching as a great place to start. For improving your status with women, I absolutely recommend John Alexander’s Become and Alpha Male
Pick Up Artist Secrets: The best pick up line in the world
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If you are serious about being a pick up artist, you must know the best pick up line in the world so here it is: “Hi…”
WTF? I hear you say. Yep, that’s it: “Hi…”
So let me explain; pick up lines whether they are cheesey, lewd, rude or just funny do not work! Talking is all you need to do. It is a complete myth that you must start any conversation with a women with some canned pick up line that you are supposed to deliver naturally. All quality pick up artists know this.
The thing about an obvious pick up line is that it puts a woman in the driving seat immediately by letting her know you are interested in her. This immediately removes any doubts she may have about whether she could ‘have’ you. She now knows that to her, you are cheap. She could click her fingers and you would be doing whatever she wants.
Secondly, if the pick up line is a well worn old favourite, she also knows you are not terribly creative which indicates you might be a little boring or worse, dim. These are not qualities she is looking for.
Thirdly, having revealed your interest in her and indicated you are mentally challenged to the point you can’t come up with something original, you are now in a completely defensive position in the conversation. You have handed her the high ground that you want to conquor and that she will more than likely not give up.
The secret to being a good pick up artist is knowing that you must coerce women into picking you up. To do this, you must be a challenge to her, not a footstool. That is what the pick up line makes you. So do you want a real answer to the question, “What is the best pick up line in the world?” The answer is conversation – plain old conversation.
Women like confidence, humour, sincerity and integrity. These qualities can all be conveyed in general conversation with out some jaunty little one liner. Sure, open with a joke but make it uncontrived and pertinent to the moment or the environment. Telling her that her father was a thief “because he must have stolen the stars from heaven and put them in her eyes” just will not do!
If a woman thinks you are ‘just talking’ then she will be more relaxed and more receptive. When she is at ease, you can make her laugh and get her to be interested in you. These are not something you can do with a ’sales pitch’ chant up line.
Pick Up Artist Tips: Equipment List
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Any pick up artist worth his salt knows there are a few tools of the trade that he must keep at all times. These will prove invaluable to ensuring that every opportunity is exploited to its maximum potential and thus rewards will be maximised for the hunter!
Items that help you strike up a conversation are always useful; things like a lighter can be invaluable. In this day and age with smoking bans all over the place, going outside for a cigarette is a good meeting place for people. Flirting and smoking has even got a new word for itself: “smirting”. If you are walking past a public building there is a good chance someone will be smoking outside and there’s a good chance there will be a potential target. Using your lighter is a great way to break the ice.
A camera can also give a pick up artist great opportunities to start up conversations in a completely innocent manner (great!). If you are with a group you can ask your target to photograph you (which is also a great way to take your target from her group of friends) and then ask for a photograph with her (which then leads onto compliments etc. etc.).
You should also always have a means of getting a phone number. A pen and paper or a cell phone can work wonders here. If you have a cell phone you can type in your number on her phone and just ring your own. This will give you her number and the opportunity to play a joke when saving it with a name (e.g. Kylie Minogue or some other babe) and also the chance for you to save your number to HER phone. This means that not only can you contact her, but if she liked you, she might start hunting you – bonus!
The fourth thing you should always have is some mints or gum to freshen your breath. We all get bad breath at some time or another so being able to sort that out at a moment’s notice is an absolute must or you will crash and burn. Pick up artists know this and eliminate the risk constantly.
Finally, the aim of being a pick up artist is not to take these gorgeous ladies home to see your mum is it? Always carry condoms for your own sake and particularly hers. You are the one planning on meeting loads of girls so there is a good chance you’ll have some bad luck at some point. Take the appropriate precautions – plan ahead!
Pick Up Artist Tips: Smile her pants off!
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OK, a pick up artist’s main objective is pretty carnal, let’s be honest. So how do you position yourself in a way to maximise that opportunity. Answer: The power of your smile.
Smiling is a known method for primates to allow other primates they mean no harm. Here’s the bad news; you’re a primate! Any pick up artist knows that in order to pick up a beautiful woman, you need her defences down, not up. By giving a smile, you are immediately letting her know you mean no harm.
Another great advantage of smiling is that people cannot really help but smile back if someone smiles at them. So if you smile at your prospect she is more than likely to smile back. This will immediately give her a subconsious trigger to like you. Smart huh?
Now, when you have sorted yourself out and gone to have a chat with her, smiling regularly send lots of other signals to her. It tells her you are relaxed. If you have good teeth, it shows them off to her and this is no bad thing. Smiling a lot also brings levity, even when you are feeling down so wherever her levels of happiness are, your smile will raise them further and leave an enduring memory that you made her happier.
Other advantages to using your smile are that they indicate you like her which makes her feel better about herself. It is a silent compliment. It also indicates you like what she is saying and that you are a fun and positive guy. It also demonstrates that you are relaxed and that you are confident as well has having a good sense of humour.
Smiling is pretty much the single most powerful tool you have in your armoury and like any powerful weapon, it must be used with care!
Never, never, ever enter a room with a smile on you face. Never ever, ever ever, enter a room laughing. Your smile and your laugh are such powerful weapons, they must be deployed carefully and with purpose. Enter a room with a straight face and smile when you look at her and she knows that she was the one that caused your change. Enter a room grinning like an idiot and you will have to pull a different face to let her know you’ve seen her. Since smiling and laughter are the best weapons you have, anything else would be a downgrade and would send exactly the wrong message.
Take note!